You Deserve to be Happy4 min read

Nov 2015, the Chennai city(India) is flooded. People around were running for survival.I, one among them with a big tragedy, left the city and went Bangalore to my uncle’s house. I felt myself escaped from a calamity. But I was trapped from one cage to another.

We all know our Indian culture or most of the cultures around the world. How we supposed to live. Join School, and then College, then get a degree. Next get a job, and next? yes its the Marriage. I get irritated when someone ask me, “When are you going to get Married?” although they knew all consequences they are facing after been married. I just stand Stolid for all those questions. But people will never allow to be peaceful right.

As expected, I took my first innings, hit with rejection. 2nd, 3rd,4th all panels rejected. I am not talking about the job rejection. It’s marriage proposal rejection. Now you know why I caught in cage. When I faced these rejections I felt like I don’t deserve to get married. My innings went on up to 12th round. One rejected me because I was too short for him and another since I was too tall for him. One expected me to be little lean and another said he would have accepted me if I was little stout. I wish I were like Dasvadharam – Kamal Haasan(Movie name – Actor name) to get one different get up each time. One wanted a working women and another wanted an uneducated wife. Nothing fitted me. All were boomed. I was devastated, miserable, you can fill any words meaning anxiety. Ultimately I was in the state of depression.

One fine day, I thought to myself, why I am not Happy? What is the glass door that is stopping me from being worries.

There I applied my 4 step formula to get rid of worries.It goes as this.

1) think of the problem that is worrying you the most.
2) think of all possible solution and its consequences.
3) do it.
4) Be happy.

In my situation the problem is rejection. Why am I rejected. All those whom I met were so judgmental about me. of course how can they guess my character in less than 30 minutes. As the saying,

“Don’t judge a book by its cover”.

Now what is the solution for it, marry a person who knows me well. There starts my love chapter. I had this one good friend. We are been friend for 5 years. He knows me very well than I do myself. To describe about him.

He is affectionate, beloved, caring, delightful, enthusiastic. He is amazing person with lot of positive vibes. He always put a smile on my face. Above all, he strives hard to make me achieve my dream. Just imagine with such a lovable person as life partner, I will fly in air with angels around me. I decided to do it. Before going to my parents, I approached him. Like in movies he had no reason to say no, so he said yes. Next part is the consequence, my parents. No idea whether they tell yes or no. I have to be prepared for that. With all sentiments induced I got the green signal. Next is the dream wedding with my BFF. Very colorful and there my story happily every after. See the formula has worked.

For all problems that we face has a solution, work for it, you will be happy. Not everyone is blessed with good things in the first attempt. there is only one life we have, break the glass door in front of you and move forward. Because you deserve to be happy.

Leave a comment below if you feel you deserve to be happy